Friday, January 30, 2009

My husband ROCKS Friday!!!

Prompt/Theme for Friday, January 30, 2009
. . . the moment or the circumstances that led to you knowing that you were going to marry the man who became your husband . . .

I am more excited about this prompt for the very reason that this is one of the moments that I can remember EVERY single detail about, but also one of the moments I hold very near and dear to my heart.


BUT...I remember the *very* moment I knew he was 'the one' like it was yesterday. It was Easter weekend and I had driven up to Coeur d'alene to meet his whole family. We were sitting in church on a Saturday afternoon to listen to his sister's husband (Billy) sing in the choir. I was sitting there, there was a person drawing a sketch along with the song they were singing and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I just *knew* something was going on. I KNEW at that very moment that this was the man I was to be with. I mean, he got me in to a CHURCH for crying out loud!!! Any person who could have done that was worthy of a medal, because i was hard-pressed to NEVER let that happen!

I look back at that moment very, very fondly. It is truly one of the greatest memories of my life-as I'm sure it is for most people. I don't know, I've never had a moment be that profound for me or have that kind of impact on me. It was just a sense of "wow, THIS is supposed to happen" that was so comforting and exciting. It was on our drive back from that weekend that I said my very first "I Love You" to him.
Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Bathroom- Complete!!!

So, Brandon and I put the finishing touches on the bathroom last night. That included an oil rubbed bronze shower rod, toilet paper holder, and flusher lol. Okay, so he went overboard with the coordinating accessories! I'm not complaining!
So, here's some before/after pictures!

BEFORE:


AFTER:






I don't know why the his/hers wall looks brown, it's actually a really pure white. It's just the lighting. Everything in the bathroom is new, all the way down to the plumbing. And, instead of having a tub that drains at 11" lol...mine now drains at something like 20 or 21" or something. It's DEEP and the kids now refer to my tub as the 'big' tub.

We painted the bottom half of the room a green color. Initially I was going to do red, but green looked so much better. So much more natural and relaxing. I kid you not this is like sitting in a spa, I LOVE it. The slate gives it a great feel, too, because you feel like you're showering in a cave or something.

Overall, I'm extremely happy with this! We didn't do too bad money-wise but I do think it cost a bit more than I anticipated.

In other news...we have run in to yet another brick wall with the refinance-the whole reason of doing the bathroom in the first place. So, if you all could say a quick prayer that things just work out for us, it would be appreciated.
Friday, January 23, 2009

My husband ROCKS Friday!!!

This week's prompt:
Tell us about a time that your spouse went out of his way to serve you, and love you sacrificially.

My initial thought to this was "Doesn't he do this every day?" Honestly it was, because honestly, that's what he does! Every day he serves me and loves me sacrificially-I think we all do this for our spouse every day. Honestly, I know he probably doesn't want to have a job. There are days where he'd just like to quit and just do 'his' thing. But, he gets up and goes to work every single day to provide for me and our kids. To me, that's definitely sacrifice and he is serving me.

When I look a little deeper in to the question and try to think of a particular episode, my bathroom comes to mind (Pictures of the finished product are to come, btw.) He did not do this for HIM or for the HOUSE...he did it for ME. He wanted me to have a place where I can relax; a nice, calming place where I can bathe the worries away in my giant tub :) It wasn't for him, because honestly he could probably put a horse trough for a tub (that's originally what tubs were, anyway) and a bucket in a 'bathroom' and call it good! But no, he spent HOURS working on the plumbing, installation, electrical, drywall, texture, and paint all for ME.

I'm pretty sure he'll never understand how wonderful it is that he did this for me. He'll never truly understand how wonderful it feels to have something like this done *for me* and no one else.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009

I'm having a "Bruce Almighty" day...

"Yeah...let's thank God, shall we? For His blessings are raining down upon me. Wait...that's not rain!"

So, I have officially dubbed this a "Bruce" day in the spirit of feeling like God is messing with me. Now I know that God presents us with challenges, but it feels like the whole past YEAR has been a giant challenge. Can't something go right?

Ah HA! I've found the problem and it lies in the sentence above: Can't something go right...

Let's explore: Can't something go right would perhaps mean that nothing has gone right. Well, that's just silly and a little unrealistic. Surely something has gone right? Well, things have definitely gone right, but I guess not according to plan. Whose plan? MY plan! Well duh, things often DON'T go according to our own plan. Things happen on His timing.

So why then has the same situation been presented over and over again and always fails miserably? It feels like there is a carrot dangling in front of my face and then it's taken away, then dangled again, then taken away. And *just* when I think I'm finally going to get that damn carrot, it goes away again!

This refinance has been an uphill battle from the beginning. Starting all the way back in July, we've invested hundreds of dollars and HOURS in to doing whatever it is the lender in the monkey suit wants us to do. We finally think it'll go through after a few other failed attempts either because we got scared and bailed or because of unfortunate timing (IE: job loss lol) and BAM...confronted with another problem. This time because Brandon's old employer said he got paid a salary and his new employer says he works on commission. UGH! WHY is this a problem...of all things THIS? After weeks of trying to get the old employer to change their paperwork because Bran was never paid a salary, we still have gotten nowhere. Now we wait. I'm just so sick of waiting. We're so close, yet so far away.

It is a situation like this, where everything is going off without a hitch and then something goes wrong that makes me feel like I'm being picked on!

The reality: I'm not being picked on. Everything happens according to God's timeline and, if this isn't the time for the refi to happen, then I better deal with it! I mean, every other time that we were close and things didn't work out, it ended up being for the better. When we started the refi in July we were looking at over $10k in closing costs and a *higher* interest rate than our original loan. Now we're looking at 5% (1.75 percent lower than our current) and we're getting money back!

I'm not being picked on, it's just a test. But Lordy does our Heavenly Father seem to like to test me! Apparently I have a lot to learn?!

Maybe he'll give me a whack at things, a nice reality check, like he did our buddy Bruce...

So, in spirit of my Bruce almighty day, I think I'll put in that DVD with a bowl of Ramen noodles, a cup of tea to nurse my sore throat, and laugh at how silly I must be looking (and acting) from His view!
Friday, January 16, 2009

My husband ROCKS Friday!!!

List at least one thing your husband did or said in the past week that reminded you why you love him.
~ he has put so much effort in to finishing my bathroom, it really makes me realize that he wants to get it done and realizes that it is important to me!
~he ate every single meal that I cooked this week. If y'all knew how picky my husband was, you'd realize what a big deal this is!!

Share a "Generous Wife Tip"
It is okay, and does not mean you are a doormat, to go out of your way to please your husband! There are so many things that I can do that are just little things to show that he is appreciated, but once in a while, I like to just bend over backward to meet his needs! It may not be something that I enjoy doing, but when I see how much he appreciates and enjoys it, slowly but surely I begin to really enjoy doing that for him. Waking up early is a big thing...I know it sounds dumb, but honestly, I am NOT a morning person. Getting up with him at the crack of dawn to spend some much needed quiet time before heading off to a busy day at work does wonders for him (and me, too!)
Tuesday, January 13, 2009

That *Inkling*

Ever get the feeling that you made a mistake...that little inkling, irk, whatever you wish to call it?

I tend to be extremely indecisive, so even picking a major for college was a big deal for me. I've always wanted to be in the health industry. I'd prefer to be a nurse or something, but you can't do online school for that!!! So, I settled on health administration and I feel like I made a mistake. I feel like I should have selected something more...I don't know...useful? I mean, I'm kind of limiting myself with the h.a. major, but I was planning on minoring in business.

So, I emailed my academic adviser about switching my major for h.a to business...even though I *hate* business, it would probably lead to a lot more opportunities. Well, I have to completely REAPPLY in order to switch my major. I don't know how that affects my financial aid and my loans if I have to do that and I do NOT have an application fee or anything, but I thought it was a simple piece of paper you could fill out and send in, not having to completely reapply!

I don't know what to do. I really dread the idea of having to study business as a major, I much prefer health administration because that's ultimately what I want to do...and with it being such a hassle to switch, I feel like I should just stick with what I have, minor in business, and then go back after I'm done and get my Master's degree in business (MBA) with a concentration in health administration. I don't know, I think my system works out well, but what will employers think??? Ya know? I mean, sure, I have my major in health admin, but I minored in business, so would they still hire me???

Ugh, I hate this. I hate the idea that I made a boo-boo in selecting something that I actually *like* for my major!!!
Sunday, January 11, 2009

Needed: A day of rest

What does the Bible say about a day of rest?
I decided to do some research on the Sabbath, or a day of rest. Initially, I always believed that because God rested on the 7th day, that was traditionally known as the sabbath, day of rest, the 7th day, whatever...
I was quite surprised to find that there is so much out there contradicting this. Some people believe that this was part of the old covenant and therefore no longer applies. Here's what Scripture says:
"Remember the sabbath day and keep it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is a sabbath of Yahweh your God: you shall not do any work—you, your son or daughter, your male or female slave, or your cattle, or the stranger who is within your settlements. For in six days Yahweh made heaven and earth and sea, and all that is in them, and He rested on the seventh day; therefore Yahweh blessed the sabbath day and hallowed it." (Exodus 20:8-11)

Okay, so that's just one example. Here's what another piece of scripture says:
"On six days work may be done, but on the seventh day there shall be a sabbath of complete rest, a sacred occasion. You shall do no work; it shall be a sabbath of Yahweh throughout your settlements. These are the set times of Yahweh, the sacred occasions, which you shall celebrate each at its appointed time" (Leviticus 23:3-4)

It is my opinion that I have gathered from scripture that there *IS* to be a sabbath day. But, which one? Saturday or Sunday? Or any other day, for that matter? I think it's Sunday, but why?
Also, what kind of activities are permitted on the Sabbath? Can we shop? Do homework? Leisure activities like golf and hiking? No work, I see...but I would take it to mean that the Sabbath is a day for GOD, not for man. Back in the day, Sunday was a day reserved for church activities, fellowship, and worship of our Lord and Savior. Why has that changed? Personally, I think it's awesome when businesses are closed on Sunday to honor God and the Sabbath. But, what about people who believe the Sabbath falls on Saturday?

Just some random nothings I was thinking about today!
Friday, January 9, 2009

'MY HUSBAND ROCKS' Friday

So, I was introduced to a few new blogs today, and some of them participate in a "My husband ROCKS" Friday type thing. I'm borrowing this questionnaire in spirit of this from Ashley at http://puttinggodfirstplace.blogspot.com/

The original "My husband ROCKS" friday idea comes from http://honestandlasting.blogspot.com/2008/06/my-husband-rocks-friday.html

So...here goes :)




1. Where did you meet?
We met through a mutual friend. Initially, I was NOT interested in meeting anyone new, but she insisted saying he was the perfect guy for me.

2. How long did you date before you were married?
We dated for 3 months before he proposed and 5 months before we were married...so, we were only engaged for two months.

3. What does he do that surprises you?
Oh goodness, he does a lot. He surprises me every day with completely random things!

4. What is your favorite quality of his?
I don't have just one, but if I had to pick, it would be his dedication and loyalty to his family; both me and the boys and to our extended family. He honestly drops everything to help someone.

5. What is your favorite feature of his?
Oh gosh, it has to be lips. He has amazing lips...

6. Does he have a nickname for you?
Not really. My whole family calls me Chrissy and he does that sometimes, but goodness...I can't think of a nickname he really has for me

7. What is his favorite food?
Pizza...hands down

8. What is his favorite sport?
Well, he played football and was Mr. Wrestler guy in high school, so I would assume it'd be one of those two. Although he does like the UFC.

9. When and where was your first kiss?
Ugh, kill me now...I *don't* remember!!!

10. What do you like to do together?
Anything and everything...we're rarely apart

11. Do you have any children?
Yes, blessed with three boys

12. Does he have a hidden talent?
He has a lot of hidden talents. I married one heck of a guy!

13. Who said "I love you" first?
I did, and I remember that like it was yesterday

14. What is his favorite type of music?
He likes everything

15. What do you admire most about him?
Wow...once again, can't pick just one thing. Since I said his dedication and loyalty before, I'll say his ability to provide and not complain about doing it! Providing for a family of five is not easy

16. Do you think he will read this?
Honestly, no! I don't even know if he knows I have a blog!
Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Wow, so this is my first post of the new year??

Huh...fancy that...my first post of the new year?!

It's already been an emotional, eventful year thus far!

I don't know if I'd say that I've come to a crossroads, but it seems like there is some kind of internal, spiritual war going on. My beliefs, faith, LIFE are all being challenged. I hate being tested; it feels like the past year has been one giant test. Can't He just spread it out a bit?!

On one note, I've learned that you can only help people who WANT the help. My friend Tiff, who we moved out here, is heading back to Colorado next week. I had high hopes for her, as I know that Tiffany is better than the life she's settled for. I even got her to see what I saw for awhile and things looked promising. Sadly, she is the same person today that she was a year ago when she was homeless in Colorado. It's sad to think that someone is given a fresh start, they have over 365 days (because it was a leap year lol) to make a change and they have experienced absolutely NO GROWTH in those days. If she was returning under different circumstances, I'd actually be happy for her and proud of her, but no, she's still the same person. She had all these opportunities lined up for her, and although she said she wanted it, her actions proved different. It breaks my heart to see her live her life the way she is. I tried to help her and it'll always be in the back of my mind that whatever I did just wasn't good enough.

I need to break free from that. I need to realize that she just wanted a free ride somewhere else. I've come to the conclusion that she is just looking for the easy way out, a free ride. She doesn't want to have to work to get her GED, her CNA...nothing. She doesn't want a better life. She wants to continue to hold herself down, to settle for something that makes her miserable. Perhaps so that she can continue to play vicim and be bitter about things. Maybe that's what she needs to do to help her sleep at night; justify her decisions...say that she was served some kind of great injustice. I don't know. I'm just so sad to see her go when I had so much hope for her...I don't really feel bitter about the financial stuff that we helped her with, getting her down here, getting attached to her kids; just the fact that she had an amazing opportunity and she threw it away.

2008 was a very trying year, and it started with our marriage being tested. It's not common for people to take in a friend and her kids...it went smoothly, but Brandon and I sure had our challenges. I am so glad that I have the Lord to lean on when things get tough, but there were times when it just seemed that it was all too much. I know Brandon was stretched to the limits financially and mentally. It took some pretty seriously bad days for me to realize the huge sacrifice HE made letting my friend come live with us. In the end, our marriage certainly is stronger and we have learned to work as a team in some pretty difficult circumstances.

Not only was our marriage tested once, but you could say it was tested a second time when Brandon was laid off. I just remember someone telling me that Brandon didn't want to tell me when he was laid off because he thought I would leave him. While it was devastating to know that he was laid off, nothing hit me like a ton of bricks quite like hearing that he was afraid I'd leave him-over him losing his JOB?! Ugh, that felt awful. After talking things over, it was his fear that I would leave because I would look at him as less of a man. Oh if he only knew how big of a man he was; this is a man who would do anything, even if it meant selling icewater to eskimos, to try and make sure his family had food, clothes, and shelter.

I cannot say how proud I am to call him my husband. Brandon is an amazing man, truly one of a kind. And, although we have been tested in 2008 and 2009 is turning up to be a year of equal difficulty, he has stood by me to be my rock and my support through it all.

Usually with pain/change/trouble comes growth. We all come out of these things as different people. When I was in my second class at Ashford, a psychology class, we learned about life stages and crises and whatnot. It was said that there are several phases to stages (if that makes sense) and that when we are experiencing a new 'stage' in our life, it is often painful at first, partially because the comfortable phase of the last stage is ending and we are unwilling (subconsciously) to let that go, but that there are tremendous opportunities for growth heading in to the next stage.

I sure am feeling the pain, the growing pains, of going from one stage to another. I am truly having a crisis; I am in the beginning of the crisis and who knows how long it will take me to adjust to my new roles, challenges, and all the crazy curveballs that God has thrown at me.