Thursday, October 31, 2013

Interesting issue about homebirth

I seldom talk about my experience with my first baby, mainly because it was extremely traumatic. However, today I'm ready to really talk about it, because there was an article I read on a blog that concerned me. A lot. 

Apparently a midwife was arrested because certified professional midwifery in Indiana is illegal. Being a CNM is perfectly legal, but they don't recognize the certification of a CPM. This lady goes to jail, all heck breaks loose, doctors comment...

One doctor stated that he didn't mind doing births without monitors, but basically that birthing needs to be done in a hospital. I am here to say "No it doesn't!" Women have been birthing babies for thousands of years, and up until recently, the births happened at home. Oh my, my, my Mr. Obstetrician, how did we *ever* get by without you? 

Some argue that this is about money, and maybe so. I don't understand the resentment that some OB's have toward midwives or women who would like to have a "less conventional" birth. Side note: Isn't that funny that homebirths, something that has been happening in homes for thousands of years, is branded "less conventional"? *ANYWHO* this guy said that he gets mad when things go wrong and the patient is basically dropped on his doorstep. Okay, of the thousands of homebirths that happen nowadays, and of the kajillions that have happened since the dawn of time, how many of those people have complications that require hospital intervention? 


Now, I do know that things can go wrong, but I'm willing to bet that a majority of homebirths or birth center births go off without a hitch. Just like a lot of hospital births.


This leads me to my issue: the obstetrician talking about agreeing with no interventions...how many women actually know they have a choice? How many women actually request no intervention? And how likely is it that most OB's are willing to do the same?


Thursday, October 24, 2013

Review: Better World Books

It is not typical for me to do a "store" review, as I usually sing the praises of my favorite retailers in other ways. However, I figured that since Better World Books was an online retailer and you can purchase their books on a number of market websites as well as their own, I would write up a little something about my experience. After all, doing more reviews is part of my goal for 2011. I've been told they're helpful :)

I have been purchasing books from BWB through half.com and the Amazon marketplace for quite some time. My experience has always been mostly positive, their prices are decent, and their shipping times were a little long, but still acceptable. Do note that their prices change from website to website and it can be hit-or-miss. Their books are usually better quality than stated when purchasing the book; I've purchased several "average" copies of books and been thoroughly impressed by how GREAT they look! 

However, I made my first purchase from their website on December 21st. I purchased the textbook I needed for my class that starts tomorrow, as well as a devotional Bible for women. They had such a great promotion going on, I ended up getting the textbook for $10 less than anywhere else. I threw the Bible in and because of the discount code I had, it cost me no extra money, so I got two books for the price of one! I paid for the "expidoodle" shipping, which was remarkably affordable, so I would get it in 2-6 business days. Factoring in Christmas, they said it should be on my doorstep no later than Wednesday, December 29th. I even got a CUTE email confirming that the book shipped...LOVE IT!

Well, I'm one of those "If it could go wrong, it will" type of people, so when my book didn't get here by the time they stated, I received an email from them seeing if I was satisfied, and if I wasn't to please drop a line. I wrote and notified them that my book was not delivered when it was supposed to, and got an email from "Tracy" almost immediately saying it was most likely lost in the mail and I have two options: Full refund *or* replacements of the books. I opted for replacements, let her know I had a class starting Tuesday, and she shipped the replacements  2 day air. When she sent me the shipping notice, she said she also noted that my original order had been held up in Washington for quite some time, but that it was scheduled for delivery in the next couple of days. She said she sent the replacement anyway "just in case", and provided me with a link to send the other books back at no cost to me should my original order arrive in time for my class.

Needless to say, the original order got here. This was the first time I was less-than-satisfied with the quality, as I had ordered a copy in "like new" condition, and it arrived with highlights and writing ALL over it. My replacement copy was just received and was in excellent condition, however. I was told to send the highlighted book back and we're square.


I have to say, if you make a habit of purchasing books on the internet, be sure to check out Better World Books; they get a solid 5 star review. They have some amazing prices, always have great promotions and coupons, and their customer service is by FAR the most amazing I have come across in ANY retailer, whether a brick-and-mortar store, or an online store. I cannot speak highly enough of BWB, so please, give them a try the next time you are looking at ordering books online!
Thursday, October 17, 2013

Weighing on my heart

I have been a little MIA because there have been some serious issues weighing on my heart. I have to get something down on paper though, as I feel this is an issue that tends to divide some of my fellow Christians.
I feel that there are matters of the heart and matters of salvation. Where salvation is concerned, I don't play around with that. It is what it is. 
Matters of the heart, however, are things that can be subjective. One person may feel convicted to live their Christian life a certain way, while another feels differently. Matters of the heart like this should never cause a division between Christians. Disagreements, usually small and petty, should not divide. Now, I am speaking on matters that are not solely a matter of salvation. 

*This is my little disclaimer...some of you may not agree with what I say here, but I am learning here, so please...don't be mean.

It is no secret that I consider myself a baby Christian. I am relatively new to this whole "God" thing...I don't know a lot, I have a basic understanding of the Bible and am just starting to really get my hands dirty. Therefore, it came as complete surprise to me that there are many Christian women who do not believe girls should go to college. Currently, I'm a junior in college; I am very thankful that the Lord has blessed me with a way to balance handle all of my responsibilities and further my education at the same time. I have personally received comments that it is a waste for me to get my education; it is my husband's job to provide while I run the home. 


I'm sorry, but I have to respectfully disagree on one point here. I do NOT think it is a waste to further one's education; I think it's a blessing. 


I fully believe that it is the man's "duty" (if you will) to bring home the bacon. He has a God-given responsibility to take care of his family financially, to be the protector, and to be the head of the home. I do believe that the place best suited for the woman is in the home. There, I said it. I'll be the first to admit that sometimes I really dislike my God-given role as helpmate and housewife, but generally, I know I am where I belong. 


Now, back to the education thing...


I completely disagree that it is a waste for a woman to get an education. For me, there is no better reason to get an education than to be prepared for the future. What would happen if my husband were to die? How would we afford food, clothing, or shelter? Yes, I do believe God would provide, but perhaps his provisions would be through a job that I hold while my children attend (insert gasp here) public school. My education is a life insurance policy of sorts...
Thursday, October 10, 2013

We've come a long way since paper blinds

When Brandon and I bought our first house, we had paper blinds. Yes, PAPER blinds. I cannot remember for the life of me where we found them, but you cut them to size and they looked like those "accordion-style" blinds. We used to hold them up with chip clips :)
I had always made such a huge deal about getting new blinds, but we just never had the money. It bothered me to no end; they were such an eyesore!
Now we're in our second house and I finally got the pretty blinds that I always insisted on having. However, my thinking seems to have changed drastically; do they make me any happier? No. Do I walk out in to the living room and say "Oh my gosh, my blinds make me feel so great?" Absolutely not. Is someone going to come in to my house and say "My, my, what MAGNIFICENT blinds you have?" More than likely, no.
Why on Earth did I press for new blinds when the paper ones were working just fine? Did it really bother me, or was I concerned about what people were thinking when they walked by my house?
More often than not, I believe that the way we live our lives is to appear a certain way to someone else. Some call this keeping up with the Joneses, but in the words of Dave Ramsey, "The Joneses are BROKE!" This doesn't only apply to material things, but ourselves as well. How many of us have crash dieted before a wedding because SO many people we know will be there and we don't want to be "that" person that looks like she completely went to pots? (Raises hand). How many of us have changed something about ourselves because we received a less-than-favorable reaction from others? (Raises hand). How many of us have changed something about our living situation/car/yard/kids because someone expressed a less-than-favorable reaction? (Raises hand). How many of us have made poor decisions with our money because we had to have that latest, greatest gadget/car/house/clothing? (Raises hand).
Has anyone ever wondered why we do this? Why we have this "need" to impress others where we actually alter our lives to conform to someone else's idea of "ideal" or "hip" or "rich" or "cool"?

Thursday, October 3, 2013

My husband ROCKS Friday!!!

My husband rocks...and I can't say it enough. Sure, there are specific events when he's especially rockin' but, that's just no fun to share ONE thing!

My husband rocks because:

He always fills the truck up with gas-I haven't pumped gas in a year...

He takes me on drives. Not anywhere in particular, but he just drives aimlessly and never complains about it.

He made me breakfast this morning even though he was in a hurry :)

He brings in the paper for me

He's always willing to help someone

He pushes me to do things I don't want to do when he knows it will be good for me, and I end up thanking him for it

He knows how to recognize the 'toxins' in my life and tries to help eliminate them-toxic people, toxic habits, etc.

He is never shy about sharing his love for me or his feelings for me

Oh, and have I mentioned, he LOVES me. Not petty love, but true, deep, and honest LOVE. This man would do anything for me, he just wants me to be happy and content. He understands me, he LOVES me, he cares about me.

It may sound creepy to some, but it made me feel wonderful the other day when he told me he was 'obsessed' with me te he :)

For more MHR Fridays, check out Katy Lin's blog at: http://honestandlasting.blogspot.com/