Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Being a Blessing

So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy,  complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.  Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.  Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.  Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus,who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped,  but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.  And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.  Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name,  so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth,  and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.
-Philippians 2:1-11

As I'm sitting here enjoying my morning coffee that my husband so graciously put on this morning, I started thinking about what a blessing he was to me and how many ways he's blessed me throughout our marriage. Then, this verse came to mind. I think this hits home with me because it talks about the humility of Jesus; He had a servant's heart and was always looking to be a *blessing* to others. I believe that we are called to do the same. 

I read a book a little while ago called "The Blessing", which I reviewed here on the blog. While it got the message across perfectly fine the first time, I really let it swirl around in my brain and began to understand exactly how important a blessing is, and how it can come in different forms than just a verbal blessing, at least in my opinion. 

What are the ways we can be a blessing to another person, or what are some ways to bless someone's day?

When I was first married I had a really hard time understanding my new "role" as a wife. Sure I knew about cooking, cleaning, and all that other stuff, but I really didn't fall in to the role effortlessly, I struggled...a LOT. My wonderful husband saw my struggle and asked what it was about my day that made me so stressed out. Well, we had two young children in the first two years of our marriage, so I was not only learning how my "wife" hat fit, but also had to learn the ins-and-outs of motherhood. I was struggling with housework, cooking, taking care of myself...and then my husband said it: "One of the best ways to bless me, bless my day, is to cook a meal for me. The house can go to pots, your hair can be in a messy bun, but I feel truly loved and appreciated when you cook a meal for me." Ever since then, I make every effort to prepare meals for him. 

Do I really feel that I am blessing my husband when I make him a meal? Yes, I most definitely do. According to Dictionary.com, a blessing is something that promotes or contributes to happiness, or the act of one that blesses. My husband is most happy, feels most loved when he has food prepared for him, so that is a blessing to him. 

To me, it's not the fact that I'm *just* preparing a meal for him-I pour tons of love and feeling in to cooking for him. I pray while I cook, I pray while I pack his lunch, I pray while I'm serving him. There is NOTHING wrong with having a servant's heart, in fact, it's what we're called to do.

I want to add that while we all have things that are important to us, I think it's necessary to note that my personal belief is that there is a distinction between something that is a blessing to us, and something that is important to us. My children are not only important to me, they are a true blessing; they bring joy and love and peace and so many positive emotions to my everyday life that they are a true blessing. My cooking pans are important to me, I'd be sad if they, say, caught on fire and burned to dust...but they're not necessarily a blessing. They're a tool I use to bless someone else. I often wonder if others believe that items we cherish could be a blessing, or if they're mere objects that are important to us. I can say that my grandmother blessed me with a beautiful pin of a Violet that I will cherish, but is the item itself a blessing to my life? I suppose it depends on which way you look at it!